Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind?and Keep?Love

Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

Reviews

Reviewed: 2019-05-17
Excellent countercurrent advice for anxious attachment types: stop worrying about looking needy and directly state your needs, then evaluate accordingly , patiently. Find secure types who will be direct, consistently available and consistently reassuring within directly stated and reasonable limits that don't change mysteriously.
Shira
August 1st, 12016 HE (the Holocene Calendar)
Reviewed: 2019-03-06
I think this is pretty good as a self-help book goes. It doesn't try to do anything overly dramatic or complex in reshaping theory surrounding relationships, but instead roots it's theory on human needs and natural development. Less useful for my purposes though - based on helping dating people to develop 'secure' relationships, rather than for those who are married. I'd like to see this applied in a more general way - like in general human relationships, not just dating.
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